My Fiance' and I are 29 and 30, ready at this point in our lives to settle down and spend more time at home and with family rather than going out. His 14 year old sister moved in with us 2 weeks ago and will be here through the summer (long story short, her home life with her mom is not ideal, and this is a better situation for her). I was excited for her to come and for us to do things together. It's been a nightmare so far.
She skips school, leaves a mess, sneaks out at night and then waltzes through the door in the morning like nothing, and has a bottle of vodka under her bed that her friend and her were drinking. Then gets horribly defensive and cops a attitude even you even try and talk to her about it. My fiance' thinks it's a phase and will go away soon. I don't know what to think as I've never dealt with this before. He says it's not our place to make rules and consequences foe her. Okay so I know it's not MY PLACE to do that, but am trying to make him see that it is HIS place to do so. Especially when she's living in OUR home, I feel partly responsible what she does because of this and it makes me uncomfortable. He's 15 years older than his sister so I think he's just trying to be the cool older sibling and act nonchalant about it all even though I know he cares what happens to her.
My question is: Am I totally off base here expecting him to exert some type of authority in this situation? Is he right, it's not his or our place to keep her in check? I am looking for some advice on how to handle this because it's quickly getting out of control and I'm lost here!
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