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What's the process for adopting?

How much did it end up costing you? I would love to adopt a baby from someone. Especially if I could be there for the appointments and take this girl out to lunch!

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 6:31 PM on Dec. 4, 2008 in Adoption

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  • There is a great site, adoption.com. It gives you information on the process, common questions, links to the laws in your state regarding adoption and testimonials. Good luck in your search!
    sarasmenace

    Answer by sarasmenace at 9:17 PM on Dec. 4, 2008

  • i am willing to assist you on your dreams.
    ladya320

    Answer by ladya320 at 9:33 PM on Dec. 4, 2008

  • be careful of anyone offering you up a baby off the net just like that...its probably a scam.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:59 PM on Dec. 4, 2008

  • i think it was 20/20 that did a special on this type of topic. people are getting scamed by others offering children so be careful. mine was done by a private lawer office. so i dont know how much it costs them. i never asked and i was on medicate so all my medical bills were paid. the only thing i asked while i was prego, was that the birth father be present. it was so he could meet the family i chose and the paperwork could be signed and no one had any hassels. the adoptive parents were wonderful and understanding of my need to make sure he signed the paperwork. i wanted nothing left to be undone. as far as i know other then the lawery fees all they payed for was the trips to florida from washgton. (and the bus fare for the father). one of they ways they found there 1 was to put a ad in a paper. just be careful
    kikyu

    Answer by kikyu at 1:32 PM on Dec. 5, 2008

  • The process is a lot longer and can vary per situation you are in. Most people start with an agency, the agency will take the steps to get you threw a homestudy, background checks, classes, etc. They will help you with your letters to birthmothers and other ways of looking for potetential situations. They will help you find a good adoption lawyer. Generally the adoption costs come in steps as you complete each part.


     


    If you choose to not use an agency you will still have to go threw the homestudy, background checks, classes, etc... but you will have to find these on your own. You will still need a good adoption lawyer regardless and you will need a lawyer for the birthmother you find.  You generally use your own resources for finding potential situations or pay extra for advertising companies to do this for you.
    *cont*

    Lil-Jo

    Answer by Lil-Jo at 8:29 PM on Dec. 6, 2008

  • Pros of using an agency is that they will help you threw the process, if you find a Bmom that backs out you just continue to the next situation (not saying that it is that easy to get past the heart ache).

    Cons of not going threw an agency is that you may have a large amount of money into a Bmom that chooses to back out of the adoption and you start all over... without getting that expense back. You can be asked for a % of living expenses, medical expenses, lawyer fees, counseling fees, etc...


    *cont*
    Lil-Jo

    Answer by Lil-Jo at 8:30 PM on Dec. 6, 2008

  • *cont*

    There are many reasons people choose the route they have taken, most are personal reasons. Many people have been looking for 2, 4, 5+ years for their match. Many people have had many failed attempts. Not including failed attempts, adoption can cost you from about $8,000 to $60,000 depending on many factors from domestic to foreign, private, agency, etc... Your question is a lot more vague that you probably realize.



    Going to appointments and out to lunch may not happen as you would like...
    Lil-Jo

    Answer by Lil-Jo at 8:33 PM on Dec. 6, 2008

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