A while back, I asked a question about our neighbor boy's play habits. He is seven and I caught him making my 5 yo pretend to kill his stuffed animal in various ways. He was telling my 5 yo that he was going to drown it, throw it in the air and let it hit the ground, run over it with the tricycle and bash its head in with a football.
His mother thought I was overreacting, but agreed to talk to him. I also found out that he let my son play mortal combat at his house when my son was only 4 yo. (This child has played mortal combat since he was four . . . maybe earlier) His mom talked to him and things smoothed out. He even attended my son's 5 yo birthday party.
Today, I found him playing a violent game again. He was thinking of ways to kill my son's mickey mouse doll. He pretended to bash his head in with a hammer and was telling my 5 yo son to bash his head in with a boulder. I was horrified. His mother brought him home.
I asked his mom whether he had done anything like this at my son's birthday party. All of my son's preschool classmates were there (from a Christian school). I was afraid that they might think we condoned this behavior (which would cause expulsion at school) and refuse to allow their children to come to our home for play dates.
His mom freaked out and started yelling at me telling me that if those parents didn't like it they could F off. She said that we all sheltered our children and that we would see how bad our parenting is when our kids grow up. Finally, she pointed out that one of the party attendees tended to horseplay (he is only 4yo). It is true that he can be somewhat rough, but he is very good natured and is just trying to play. She says that is far more aggressive and violent than her son's games.
Seriously, is a 4 yo's horseplay more violent than a 7 yo who enjoys planning gruesome ways to kill my son's stuffed animals?
I think the 7 yo is odd. (Might I add that he has no friends at school and has already been referred to a school sponsored counselling program) Does anyone else think this is bizarre?
Needless to say, I am drawing the final line now. My son is not going anywhere near this child.
I don't understand why his mom is so angry with me about this. She insists that I am a bad parent because I shelter my kids and my kids will turn out bad in the end. And she is very angry with the way I parent my son. WTH? Why would my parenting even matter to her?
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