BirthMoms/FirstMoms/Natural Moms/Birthers (whatever you like to be called). There is all this talk bout how the Birthtmom is waiting and dying for the child to come back to them when they are adults and how every day they are suffering so much missing them. There are a lot of Birthmoms who simply went on with their lives and are happy their kid has a good life like they wanted.
What happens when these kids grow up and find out the Birthmoms weren’t pining away for them everyday and don’t want them back as their kids. Wont they be disappointed?
Asked by Anonymous at 3:05 PM on May. 5, 2011 in Adoption
Answer by 2ndtimewish at 12:34 AM on Jul. 4, 2011
Answer by onethentwins at 4:54 PM on May. 5, 2011
Answer by gemgem at 3:11 PM on May. 5, 2011
Answer by ria7 at 3:12 PM on May. 5, 2011
Answer by onethentwins at 4:47 PM on May. 5, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 6:00 PM on May. 5, 2011
Answer by amber710 at 1:02 PM on May. 6, 2011
"Birthmoms on here have adoptees thinking everyone wants their kid back and some know they made the right decision." Again, even if they are happy in their decision, it has nothing to do with enjoying or wanting a reunion, anymore than Adoptees searching means that there is something wrong with their Adoption or Adoptive Parents. The two are not related. Before I reunited with my son I was very happy with my decision and thought it was the right one, but I was still very happy to have contact with my son and meet him. Why wouldn't I?
If your point is that happy birth moms wont want reunion, I strongly disagree. But, if your point is that the birth moms on CM shouldn't be promising Adoptees on CM that their Bmoms can't wait for reunion and will automatically welcome them with open arms, I thoroughly agree with you. Sometimes Adoptees in loving reunions do the same thing. I've even PM'd moms about it and cautioned them about it.