I'm seeing a therapist for anxiety and phobia disorders. She thinks my issues stem from anxiety and stress caused by my parents fighting and my dad emotionally abusing me. This week I'm supposed to write a therapeutic letter to him, explaining what he did that was wrong and how it effected me. This is really hard for me. He died when I was 15 and I kind of idolized him. He hurt me a lot, but he was still my dad. It's going to be very hard to write all this down, but I can do it.
The problem is that I feel like I need to talk to someone who knew him about it. My brother and I are not close at all and all my sisters are busy. I worry that my mom will blame herself for my problems if I talk to her about it. It's really not her fault, I mean, she could have left him, but for all the hurt he caused our family, he was better than any man she had ever known in her life. She was not raised in a happy home and had no idea how to pick a man who would be stable. Her father was violent and tried to murder her mother and her siblings on several occasions because of paranoid schizophrenia.
I realize this is a lot of personal information about my family, sorry for the overshare. But I just don't know what to do. Do I talk to my mom, wait to get ahold of one of my sisters, or do I power through this letter all by myself?
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