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Sex talk with kids?

At what age do tell kids about sex? do u wait until they ask? Or what?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 12:25 AM on May. 6, 2011 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • I say at the age kids are starting to have sex now maybe 13-14
    myownhappiness

    Answer by myownhappiness at 12:28 AM on May. 6, 2011

  • My kid is 14 and is NOT having sex. I bought her a book when she was about 10, we talk often about it.
    emmyandlisa

    Answer by emmyandlisa at 12:32 AM on May. 6, 2011

  • when they start asking...mine are 5 and they both have know how babies are made and how they are born since they were 4. They ask us, we tell 'em...they have been watching birthing shows on tv since they were born too
    shivasgirl

    Answer by shivasgirl at 12:33 AM on May. 6, 2011

  • my son is 9 and seems curious,(like touching it ) but doesnt ask... he will be 10 in august, i dont want tostart the talk if hes not ready.
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 12:35 AM on May. 6, 2011

  • Wait are we talking about sex or masturbation? @ emmyandlisa I don't know if the first part of your comment was directed at me but I didn't mean ALL kids that age, I meant MOST and I guess I should have specified that kids are having sex more and more @ 15-16 so I would hit them at about a year or two earlier before they start having sex
    myownhappiness

    Answer by myownhappiness at 12:37 AM on May. 6, 2011

  • from an early age.......and as soon as they start asking questions, answer them honestly but age appropriately also.....my 3 year old already asked me "where did I come from" lol yay for me!!!!! ugh! lol I always want my daughter to be able to come and talk to me about anything, so I have to make sure the communication lines are open from an early age- otherwise they will get their advice from the wrong sources normally their peers!!!!
    Princess_s21

    Answer by Princess_s21 at 1:27 AM on May. 6, 2011

  • I talked to my daughter at 9 and she told me she'd already heard at school. We went over the basics anyway to make sure she didn't have an misinformation, and she's asked follow up questions since then. We haven't gone over birth control, only touched briefly on oral sex, etc. so there will be more small talks along the way, but the kids at school talk. Also, here in 5th grade they go over the basics in school, so if he hasn't gotten information by then, he may get it at school (of course they sent out a permission slip the kids had to get signed in order to attend the classes)
    missanc

    Answer by missanc at 12:30 PM on May. 6, 2011

  • My son & I and my son & his dad have had a few conversations about where babies come from, good touch vs. bad touch, appropriateness in public with your own body, etc. - he is 9 and this probably started when he was about 6. We watch a lot of Animal Planet, so that's been very educational.

    If I were you, I would start talking about it. Maybe ask him what he's heard to make sure he's not gotten any total misinformation.

    Just an FYI, my son about 6 mos ago said, "I know babies grow in moms' tummies and that you need a cell from the mom & a cell from the dad, but how do the cells get together?" So, I started to explain how the cells get together, and he said, "You know what mom, you can stop now - I can tell this is going to be kind of disturbing." So I guess we'll talk more later!
    sweetpotato418

    Answer by sweetpotato418 at 2:01 PM on May. 9, 2011

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