Here is the situation. A friend is in a mentally abusive relationship. She and her partner fight and he tears her down emotionally and mentally in an extremely abusive manner. She comes crying and tells you all the mean things he has said to her. You advise her that after all this time and no change has happened in their relationship except that the abuse is getting more frequent and more vicious..that it might be time to walk away from him forever. He doesn't think he's wrong and will not likely change.
She cools off and goes back to him and tells him what you said, then tells you she can't talk to you because you are coming between them fixing their problems and are trying to ruin their relationship. (Obviously his words in her mouth.) You've never just come out of the blue and told her she should leave, it's only when she comes to you for advice that you tell her she is fighting a losing battle with this guy.
Then a few days later she is back...wanting to cry on your shoulder because he's become abusive again.
Is it wrong to tell her that you don't want to be involved and you don't want to hear about it either because she's going to go back as soon as she cools off? Or do you just stay in the cycle hoping she gets it one day?
Does it make you a bad friend not to want to be taken on the emotional roller-coaster each one of these fights cause?
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