My husband mother has always been very selfish, She always talked using profanity to her three children all their life, she always treated other people around her better that her own family. When I met my husband I noticed he had an "UNUSUAL" family. But for some reason i was drawn to her son; I guess I felt sorry for him. Anyway I know myself to be a fair person and I always step back to see the big picture and I was never comfortable with what I saw within her personality. Here are a couple of comments that came out of her mouth about the time I met her.
1. I was visiting, she was cooking cheeseburgers her husband got home from work and said; I don't want Onions on my burger, don't put any in there.
Her; !!YOUR GONNA EAT IT HOWEVER WAY I MAKE IT!!!
He just nodded his heard. She slapped the onions on there.
2. I'm Mexican. She said to her son while I was just steps away; "Why don't you find yourself a white girl!" UUUHHH WE WERE ALREADY MARRIED!!!
3. At family functions as I tried to mingle with her family she butted in and tried to take away the attention I was getting. If I was talking recipes with someone she would bring up a recipe I let her in on and say that she created it.4. At a family party she snapped at me in front of my family about putting some stupid chilly dip in the oven she had made with the foil on!5. She tried to control our relationship from a few miles away, could not find it in herself to butt out! These few things now may sound petty but it gets worse! 6. My husband’s mother died and left a will where she stated that after the sale of her house her 2 son's would split the money and 33% percent would go to each grandson (3). She also verbally stated to my exactly what WAS in the will. Grandma also confided in me that she did not want "ANN" in control of the will and she was afraid her son would leave it to her to control it and guess what?? Grandma was right!!! I went to visit my in-laws’ and my father in-law showed me the will without thinking and of course I paged through it and saw what grandma had stated to me!! My husband and his brothers waited for the will to be read and NOTHING!!
it never happened!! The only thing they would say was, a) "yes we will be giving you some money!"b). "The will is in "TRUST" C)."Jonny I am gonna give you the money but I don't want you to pay off your bill!" The list went on and on until the subject was left alone. His parents moved away to different state and took ALL of the $650,000 with them, along with the Uncle which had NO control of his money either. They Build him a trailer in their 5 acre land and stuffed his freezer and refrigerator with food, Knowing that he was an alcoholic and not able to cook for himself. But they made sure he had his Beer and cigarettes at all times which is the only thing he ate! After three years he died! We went to his wake and guess what?? Little ol me was in the kitchen with them talking; "ANN! SEE I told you we should have BUOGHT the life Insurance!!" ANN: "WHY TOM?? WE ALEADY HAVE ALL THE MONEY!!"ME: [sigh]" MY mouth dropped!! I felt so disgusted!! I had no words! I just put my head down and walked out! How could two people be so cold?? Especially one being a brother!7. When we lived away from them she never acknowledged me, it was always she only had her son and my daughter in mind for birthday's and special occasions! "WHO AM I?" I did take part in giving a granddaughter!! He didn't have her on her own!8. We moved to the same town and she NEVER wanted to baby sit or have my daughter alone with her in the house because it was an inconvenience. IF I asked if she would baby sit, she would ask, "for how long?" "When are you coming back?" "How long does that take?" I didn't feel a grandma should be asking those questions! Before any other response! So I never asked anymore! 9. We needed her to pick up our daughter so she could take her to her Karate class, her response, "are you gonna give me gas money!"8. For 38 years every single day! she yelled everything at her husband with in every sentence having the words, "Mother F**ker"; SON OF A *****; "F***ken Baste**";"SHUT UP!" "NO!!YOU CAN"T GO OUT!" "I'm NOT GIVING YOU ANY MONEY!" (because she was always in control of all the money he made) There is TON"S MORE to this story but I'm running out of room! She ended up getting cancer and her attitude towards her husband escalated, so enough is enough right so much some people could take, he found himself another woman and she turned into the devil if she wasn't already! They did it to each other back and forth; him openly talking to his girlfriend in front of her, she demoralizing him in front of people with harsh language constant arguing! Until she attempts to set him on fire! By this time she had been cleared of cancer. He posted an order of protection against her, All she says is "I miss my house, my bed! I still love him!” I have NO sympathy for her. Is it wrong for me to feel like I do?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:26 PM on May. 7, 2011 in Relationships
whoosh!!!!!! that was long. to answer your question; no i would not have any sympathy for her. i am the type of person that holds a grudge so from the very moment she had told her son to get a white woman... i would have nothing whatsoever to do with her. i would not visit her house, i would not say a single word to that old battle axe.
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