What would you do if your husband is coming for his R&R and his mom want to come right away the next day of his arrival. This is not his 1st deployment, is his #6, in the 12 yrs of our marriage she never get interest to come and visit us for nothing at all, why now? That is my question. His mom pretty much don't even call to see how his kids are doing but instead, she want to come for 5 days in his R&R (15 days of relax and relaxation time). OHHH! And in top of that he had to pay for her ticket. What would you do? I just want to make those days less than 5 days.....Well, because I'm the one that is going to book it, I will get the latest airplane that arrive close to 11 pm......Then on the leaving day I will book the earliest that leave at 6:45 am. My kids have been planning a schedule to spend time with his Daddy and now all of that is ruin. My oldest ones (12 yrs old and my 10 yrs old) express me to buy them tickets to go to my mom's house until his Daddy's mom (that's how they call her) leave......I'm really sad because one of my kids drop his grades from A's to D's because he don't want his Daddy's mom to come. My son ask me, why if she don't even call us to see how we doing, why she is coming to ruin our time with Daddy?....He answer himself, she's coming because all she cares is about my "Daddy" not us.....It broke my heart listen my kids say these things.....I would like some of you girls give advice....I have my children in counseling because of this situation....
UPDATE (May 13)
Now things are getting worse.......Not only my MIL is satisfied to come and ruin or time with my DH, now is youngest sister is coming to....And by the way both of them want my DH to buy them the tickets....HELLLLOOOO!!! I told him that he only can pay his mom not his sister.....OH!!!! What a nightmare I'm going to live for 5 days......I only think about my kids and it get me so pissed off. And by the way my MIL is pretty much argue with her big daughter because my MIL told her to take care her son......She is mad at my MIL.......So if I buy the ticket it may be a possibility that she may not come....Because they always leave thing for the last minute....So my DH is already advice, if he is not sure of her to come, I'm not going to waste almost $800 and then loose them....What you guys do in my position?Answer Question
Answer by Jademom07 at 11:36 PM on May. 7, 2011
Answer by coala at 11:38 PM on May. 7, 2011
he needs to set boundaries with his mom. he now has a family of his own who needs to spend quality time with him. you should talk to him about this, if he doesn't understand or gets defensive ......i see problems in your future. your MIL is so rude! she just injected herself into the equation huh? talk about an uninvited guest..
Answer by gwen20 at 11:40 PM on May. 7, 2011
Answer by EJKZ at 11:43 PM on May. 7, 2011
Answer by Tossundacis at 5:14 PM on May. 8, 2011
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