My husband is hanging out an awfully lot with this other woman. He'll call her up about 2-3 times a week wondering what she is doing later on that night and then go out with her. The way he looks at her, the tone in his voice when he is talking to her, just everything is pointing out to me that he is attracted to her. I've confronted him about my feelings towards this whole thing, and he just keeps saying I'm crazy and it's all in my head. "We're just friends. She's cool to hang out with." he says. I wouldn't mind him hanging out with her. But it's becoming more & more frequent. Is he disrespecting me right to my face?? Am I just being immature?? He's out with her right now as I am typing this. Called her up right after I pissed him off about one small little thing.
Asked by Anonymous at 4:48 AM on Dec. 5, 2008 in Relationships
Answer by sailorwifenmom at 7:00 AM on Dec. 5, 2008
Answer by Kimebs at 5:51 AM on Dec. 5, 2008
So is he out after 4am as your post time suggests? This is not cool nor appropriate or a married man. If he knew this woman prior to you I would say a once in awhile get together may be ok (like childhood neighbor friends--something on that level), but this seems dubious. I think you know what's going on deep down. This would not fly in my marriage and it does not matter if you did piss him off. That point makes him sound passive agressive, and I would really start checking all of this out, and then think about some decision making for the near future.
Answer by Teachermom01 at 6:38 AM on Dec. 5, 2008
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Answer by YoungMomtoGirls at 9:33 AM on Dec. 5, 2008
He is with another woman at this hour of the morning that you posted? & he is your husband? Oh, hell no !!! What you think they are doing at this hour of the am? Sorry, but I would not for a minute stand for it. By the way I am also a single mom. When a man does not act like a decent man should, I have very little understanding for their crude ways of rationalizing things just so they can have their way. I don't put up with a lot of anything that is disrespectful. That is why I am divorced & happier than I have ever been. Life is too short to put up with a jerk-offs self indulged behaviors.
Answer by strongmom40 at 10:42 AM on Dec. 5, 2008
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Answer by Anonymous at 2:57 PM on Dec. 5, 2008
While reading your post I had red flags going up. I'm sorry but this is just not right. If he wants to go hang out, he should be hanging out with you! I am so "territorial" when it comes to my DH, this is really unacceptable to me. He'd have to make a choice: me or her. Even if they are just friends, it's inappropriate. Don't go to him mousy, don't let him dismiss your concerns. I don't really like ultimatums, but with something like this you have to let him know it's you are her. And stick to it.
Answer by Austinsmom35 at 8:13 PM on Dec. 5, 2008