I read a poignant blog about closing the door on the hope that the other mother (struggling with addiction and anger) will change. The door that holds the fear of what happens today affecting a possible relationship with her later on.
The blog is written by a natural mother who has reunited with her child. In her situation, the adoptive mom struggles with alcohol addiction and acts inappropriately to hurt her child.
Although written by a natural mother, some of us adoptive moms have been in the same situation with the roles reversed.
Most of us believe, as this natural mom doe,s that "what would be best for my son would be the love of both his mothers." It is hard to disagree that this is the ideal situation and the one we all want for our children. In some cases, it works out perfectly.
Some of our children. however, have birthmoms similar to the adoptive mom in this blog. Birthmoms who struggle with addiciton and behave in ways that are inappropriate and hurt our children. Some of us have held out hope that she will get help with her addiction struggles. Some of us walk on eggshells out of fear that what happens today will affect a possible relationship between her and our children later on. LIke this mom, our fear can restrict us from defending our children and shielding them from pain.
The adoptive moms in this situation struggle mightely with the same issues this natural mom grapples with. This blogs speaks to adoptive moms as much as natural moms. It is an example for us all.Answer Question
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