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My oldest DD is very difficult to punish. Time outs have been tried, no effect. Can't take away anything because she does not form material attachments. The few times I have resorted to spanking, she yells, but repeats the behavior within a week. At the advice of my DH I assigned sentences for her latest BS (she was caught stealing at school.) I am at my wits end. I have to correct these behaviors before she gets any older and I can't do anything (she's 7)

Any other suggestions?

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Asked by Audrice1985 at 12:02 PM on May. 8, 2011 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • Not really but I would suggest telling her when she's being good, over emphasize her awesomeness!

    Answer by emmyandlisa at 12:52 PM on May. 8, 2011

  • Reward her for good behavior.
    Make a chart and use it to show if she's behaved or not. If she's been good she can...
    what does she like? playing outside? watching tv? Whatever she enjoys, use it as motivation instad of trying to punish her. Some kids just respond better this way, so it may be worth a try.

    Answer by Nicoles2LilRams at 12:54 PM on May. 8, 2011

  • Since she doesn't enjoy "things" what does she enjoy? Whatever that is, take it away from her. Good luck.

    Answer by scout_mom at 12:58 PM on May. 8, 2011

  • My children do not form physical attachments to material things either (well my youngest son does but he has been diagnosed with SID so discipline is dealt with differently with him) My middle son is currently grounded from just about everything, he can play with his siblings, but he has more phone, no tv time, no field trips for the rest of the school year.... just because they don't form physical attachments, doesn't mean they don't form other attachments... I like the sentence idea, and as dumb as it sounds, take tv time away from her, and start a reward system, nothing big... but when she does good at school or has a good day take her to the park, or make cookies with her...the more rewards (and again I stress SMALL REWARDS) the better she will be, because then her punishment is not doing those things. Good Luck.

    Answer by kitchenwitch78 at 1:03 PM on May. 8, 2011

  • I like the rewards idea.

    Comment by Audrice1985 (original poster) at 1:10 PM on May. 8, 2011

  • You make my point about spanking not being effective. I don't think punishment is the answer. It sounds like she's not learned right from wrong yet. I'd concentrate on teaching her. Keep in mind that once she knows, discipline is NOT the same as PUNISHMENT. Punishment alone is not effective. Help her learn. She's a little girl not a teen.

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:21 PM on May. 8, 2011

  • She knows right from wrong. the issue is SHE DOESN'T CARE.

    Comment by Audrice1985 (original poster) at 7:12 PM on May. 8, 2011

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