yep that's right. i gave him an ultimatum: either quit buying marijuana or leave. simple decision, really. he chose the latter though and is staying at his mom's for a few days. i would like to make it known that im not against marijuana, but i am against it when my husband is buying it every two days with money we don't have, sneaking behind my back to buy it, lying about it, etc. he just got laid off and he's on unemployment and we just got on foodstamps, i did not want to be "that type" of family. besides, he uses it as his "happy drug" because he has anger problems and can't seem to be a good father unless he's high. he refuses to go and get real help and put on real medicine. if he's not high he's a real jerk or he hides from us all day. so either way it's a lose-lose situation. i am not willing to bend on this especially because he's on probation. i have been telling him for months to stop and its always "the last time". now the realization is hitting me that i might wind up being a single mom of 3. i haven't told my parents yet, infact my mom just called to see how the rest of my day was and i didn't have the heart to tell her that it was ruined in another financial battle and he left. im also afraid if i tell her about his illegal habits than if he does agree to some counseling and stops, they will always look down on him and judge him. im just a ball of emotions right now. i feel good that i stood my ground but i wish he had made the right choice. whoever this guy is is not the guy i married.
Answer by CallMeAngie at 5:42 PM on May. 8, 2011
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Answer by letstalk747 at 5:51 PM on May. 8, 2011
I am so sorry. I would do the same thing---give him an ultimatum. He needs some help . But he will only get it if he realizes that he needs it and decides you and the family are more important than pot---he is self-medicating and that's bad. Good luck...
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