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Stepkids gain crazy amout of weight after 2 week visit with mother. Abuse?

My stepkids spend a couple months during the summer with their biomom and every other Christmas. This past Christmas, my 4yr old step daughter gained 7lbs in 2 weeks! She eats really good at my house...can't imagine what she ate to gain that much weight in just a couple weeks. Could this be considered abuse?


Asked by JLang at 1:42 PM on May. 9, 2011 in General Parenting

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  • sounds like Biomom let her have all the junk food she could have and spoiled her a years worth all at once.. not abuse, over spoiling

    Answer by zoejains_momma at 1:44 PM on May. 9, 2011

  • over feeding is abuse nowadays? i could see if your step daughter lived with her mom and was overweight because of poor eating habits set up by her mom, but she only had her for 2 weeks and clearly spoiled her rotten. nothing abusive about that.

    Answer by tnm786 at 1:44 PM on May. 9, 2011

  • Doesnt sound like abuse to me...sounds like bio-mom probably misses her kids and is just trying to over-compensate with biggie

    Answer by Lucky209 at 1:47 PM on May. 9, 2011

  • Well there could be other reasons, maybe she was getting ready for a growth spurt? Ds is 6 an always gains a bit of weight before he grows a couple of inches,, she probably just was "spoiling" them a bit.. so sad to me that she only sees her kids twice a year (I am sure there is a reason) but still sad.

    Answer by kimigogo at 1:50 PM on May. 9, 2011

  • Call CPS and ask them if it is. What did you do? Weigh the kids before they went and after they came back? I do not think what she does is child abuse. She is spoiling her kids that is all.

    Answer by louise2 at 1:53 PM on May. 9, 2011

  • Hmmmm, r u sure that ur sc doesn't have a health issue u don't know about? 7 lbs in 2 weeks is pretty hard to do even if u r eating a lot of junk.

    Answer by PANZONSMOM at 1:51 PM on May. 9, 2011

  • no, for all you know it could be a growth sprout.. did you check height too? could be period issues, or just plain old christmas with lots of turkey, stuffing, gravy, and candies in their stockings.. really i think you are over reacting and NO its not child abuse.

    Answer by xxhazeldovexx at 2:05 PM on May. 9, 2011

  • lol call cps and they will laugh in your face.

    Answer by xxhazeldovexx at 2:07 PM on May. 9, 2011

  • I think abuse is a bit of a stretch.

    Answer by tspillane at 2:14 PM on May. 9, 2011

  • Sounds like a little extra tv watching and a little extra indulgence.

    Answer by hotelmom123 at 2:54 PM on May. 9, 2011