This was a comment directed to me in another question of mine. My question now is...
Why should I?
Respect is defined as: "esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person, a personal quality or ability, or something considered as a manifestation of a personal quality or ability".
So why would any individual feel that they automatically deserve "respect" from a complete stranger? Simply because they exist? I think that all people are entitled to the same basic human rights, and I do my best to try to be polite and extend common courtesy to everyone, but in my opinion, actual "respect" is something that must be earned.
Regarding the idea that a belief deserves respect... well, I can say that I highly respect the idea that everyone has the right to believe whatever nonsense they want, however, I will not respect those beliefs that have no merit, or are otherwise unworthy. I also do not think that anyone's beliefs should be above questioning, and feel that any system of belief that demands unquestioning adherence is by far the least deserving of respect.
This, of course, does not mean that I'm going to go out of my way to be rude to people who hold beliefs that I do not consider worthy of my respect. As I mentioned before, I do feel that common courtesy is important. For example, sitting quietly when someone says grace before a meal is simply the polite thing to do... it is an appropriate way of showing that I respect their right to believe what they want, but in no way does it mean that I respect their actual belief.
Now, before anyone thinks they are going to be clever and say that I was being discourteous when I posted my other question, please keep in mind that it was posted in a debate forum - a place specifically designed for people to discuss opposing views. Had it been posted in something like a (non-debate) Christian Evangelist group, then I'd agree, that would have been rude.
Honestly you guys, come on... this is what she said: and I do my best to try to be polite and extend common courtesy to everyone, but in my opinion, actual "respect" is something that must be earned.
She's not saying that she goes around being a total bitch to people just for the hell of it. COMMON COURTESY is being polite, as you would want to be treated likewise by strangers. Actually RESPECTING someone, is totally different from being courteous, respect is something honorable and not easily given, for a person to literally respect every single other human ever in the whole wide world means that any a*****e you’ll never even meet is just as valuable and appreciated by you as the people who love/care for you. IMHO, that’s very sad.
Answer by brandy0827 at 7:31 PM on May. 9, 2011
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Answer by SuperChicken at 6:50 PM on May. 9, 2011
Enough with the dissembling. You can write as many spinoffs as you want, that won't change the fact that you made the other post with the intentions of inflaming people. You can't deny that, much as you might try. Even in this post, you couldn't resist throwing in a few more thinly veiled barbs. "well, I can say that I highly respect the idea that everyone has the right to believe whatever nonsense they want, however, I will not respect those beliefs that have no merit, or are otherwise unworthy"
Really, I'm not bothered by your last post, or any others like it. But if you're going to deliberately make inflaming posts, at least own it. Don't make another post claiming that you "try your best to extend common courtesy" - which, by the way, you didn't.
Answer by DusterMommy at 1:08 AM on May. 10, 2011
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