I no longer speak to my mother. My mother and I have never had a good relationship at all. Shes always so angry about every little thing. She messed with my head a lot when I was living with her. Towards the end of me living with her, I left when I was 19, I lost over 4 pounds in 3 months because I was so stressed out. I worked almost full time, I went to college full time, and I was expected to be home to clean the house every day. My mother didn't do so much as lift a finger, just played around on facebook all day, and make a mess whenever she ate.
The last time I saw her, she was kicking my ass because I told her I wanted to take a break from school, and move out on my own. I had a job, which she claims I didn't get paid enough for. $12.50 an hour, I'd say that was pretty sweet. She wanted more money from me, and when I told I wanted to leave, she just went ballistic on me. I had bruises and my jaw hurt for a month. I left that night with the clothes on my back (19 at the time). She tells everyone I ran away, I say I moved out abruptly. I've never looked back. Since then, shes told all my family I'm a drug addict and I beat her up, and sent her to the hospital, no one believes her, because they all know her, and they know that I can't fight.
Its been a year and a half since I've seen her, she sends emails every now and then, telling me I'm a horrible person, and making me feel like shit. Recently I've been trying to communicate with her because I am pregnant. I send her pictures of the ultrasounds and tell her stuff thats going on with the pregnancy and stuff and she just has nothing nice to say. I got tired of it, and I wrote her an email stating that if she ever wants me to be in her life ever again, she better stop treating me the way she does, as it is now, I'm not letting her get near my child. She went off and said that shes embarrassed of me, and I'm going to be a horrible mother, and all kinds of mean things. I've been ignoring the emails now.
But now heres where my problem lies...she sent me an email easter weekend saying, she doesn't know why I'm so angry, and we need to get together, because its all about love and family, and she just wants to understand why I'm so mad at her.
It was a very nice email, I guess you could say...but really it was a pathetic plea.
She says to me the most mean and nasty things, and then the next week, she tells me she doesn't know why I'm so angry.
Am I wrong for keeping her out of my life? Am I wrong for not letting her near my child?
My older brothers don't speak to her anymore, for pretty much the same reason. Shes never even met my Nephew.
Is it wrong for me to really hate my mother? Does that make me a bad mom?
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