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3 Bumps

Mandated sterilization

This situation did actually occur around here, wondering what you think.
25 year old woman 5 kids with 3 different dads. Delivered all between 23-35weeks and everyone of them had extensive NICU stays costs millions of dollars per child. She and all of her children are on MA and she and the baby daddies don't have jobs. In the case of the last 3 she purposly left various hospital against medical advice - discontinuing the medication treating her preterm labor herself. She also decided with the 3rd that 33 weeks was long enough and through "her research" determined that it would likely survive so she took herself off bedrest and oral preterm labor meds and walked 3 miles to induce labor - delivered 4 hours later. the next was at 23 weeks and she left the hospital again and decided to drive herself to another hospital - water broke on the 2 hour drive and she had it 20 min after getting to the hospital. Last baby was born at 26 weeks and she again ignored medical advice - because the last on "was fine" at 23 weeks and this one is 26 weeks and i'm sick of being pregnant. all this was well documented and the state stepped in and said either get a tubal or we will no longer cover your medical expenses. she chose the tubal. do you think the state was justified


Asked by nurse_maya at 4:02 AM on May. 10, 2011 in Parenting Debate

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  • YES!!! MY Opinion--- it sounds like she could care less about her babies and having a healthy- full term baby. She did not follow doctors advice, she took steps that were guranateed to bring on labor and she delivered the babies without thought to the babies and how they would need extensive medical care due to being so premature. Since she did not have to pay the medical expenses she could care less about how much the medical care costs, or how long the babies would need to be in the hospital. She should have been sterilized after the 1st or 2nd time she did it, and not be allowed to keep popping out the kids like that!

    Answer by MizLee at 10:18 AM on May. 10, 2011

  • absofreaking lutely. that woman is nuts. Someone should have sterilized her years ago....

    Answer by ShainaMay at 4:03 AM on May. 10, 2011

  • It does not sound like they forced her to get a tubal. They gave her a choice.  Pay for yor own medical for more babies or get a tubal.  she could have moved to a different state.


    Answer by louise2 at 6:04 AM on May. 10, 2011

  • I am surprised the state didn't try some sort of action against her for endangering the welfare of the unborn child.

    Answer by sneakyboo at 10:56 AM on May. 10, 2011

  • Yes! Some people just are not meant to be parents. It seems like this woman needs some help. Something isn't right there.

    Answer by Twilight_Mama at 4:31 AM on May. 10, 2011

  • "Even if she denied sterilization & she got pregnant again, they could not deny her or her babies medical attention. "

    no, but they can deny covering it.

    Answer by xxhazeldovexx at 12:14 PM on May. 10, 2011

  • Good for her. She went for sterilization now she can take care of her babies without having to worry about complicating pregnancies. Hope she gets well and her children grow up to be good citizens.

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:09 AM on May. 10, 2011

  • Yes!

    Answer by FroggyFeet at 4:09 AM on May. 10, 2011

  • I wish they would do this to my stepson's mom, but sh eis only trying for her fourth...we have her first (rights were termed) her ex bf has her second, she has supervised visits once a year, and her third (different baby daddy) passed after being born at 24 weeks. She too signed herself out of the hospital with that one. Now she is using an OPK to try to get pregnant with #4

    Answer by shivasgirl at 4:41 AM on May. 10, 2011

  • I think they did the right thing here... the lady sounds like an idiot.

    Answer by Gremlyn1980 at 6:10 AM on May. 10, 2011

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