I posted a question yesterday about surprising my husband with a sexy striptease only to have him dissolve in helpless laughter, crushing what little self-confidence I managed to scrape together to do such a thing in the first place. I ended up crying for two hours and sleeping in the guest room.
I got up early yesterday morning, so I could get out of the house early and wouldn't have to face him. He called me several times during the day, but I didn't answer. I knew that I would eventually have to go home and look him in the eye, but I sure considered just running away to join the circus instead. When I got home, DH was waiting for me. He'd retrieved the torn-up lingerie and shoes from the trash and they were laid out on the coffee table. "We should talk," said he, "I am really REALLY sorry, I know I hurt your feelings terribly but let me explain myself at least and try and make it up to you somehow." I said okay. He continued:
"I'm going to need to be honest here. This stuff (he indicated the lingerie)...well, it's just not you. And the dancing... I know you tried, but it just wasn't sexy, Sweetie. But I was wrong to laugh, even though I couldn't help it I was absolutely wrong. I love you, I'm so sorry, what can I do to make it up to you?"
I remembered what those who answered my question had suggested, that it would have been smarter to find out what he really does like, so I said "You can make it up to me by telling me what you would have liked, and being more vocal in general about what you like and what you don't, so I'm not left to wildly speculate and end up making a fool of myself again!"
He thought for a minute. "I really don't know how to answer that question. I like YOU, I like our allegedly-boring predictable sex life, so you can stop worrying about that."
I told him that I wasn't worried really, but rather I just wanted to be perceived as sexier, to WOW him a bit.
He looked at the floor. "Baby...Now I mean this in the kindest, most loving way possible, but you aren't 'sexy'. You're funny, which I find attractive, and you're super-smart, which I also find attractive, and of course I love and adore you so of course you're attractive to me. But there isn't an outfit you can put on or makeup or perfume you could use or anything you could do that would magically make you sexy. So you can stop trying and just be yourself."
So, I guess I got my answer.
Asked by Anonymous at 10:06 AM on May. 10, 2011 in Relationships
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