I'm a sahm, my SO makes a decent amount of money. I noticed that everytime a family member or friend is coming to visit me from somewhere he gets really catty. What I mean by that is, I'll tell him way in advance about them coming, I'm talking months, weeks, and when it gets closer to them coming he starts saying things like "oh well you know you might not be doing this or that because we don't have the money for it" I'll ask him why does he wait until were close to the date and start saying that my plans probably won't happen and basically taking all the fun from it. I also tell him if we didn't have the money for it then why the hell would he let me make the plans with so and so and hen at the last minute tell me is not gonna happen, really pisses me off. Then he says well we do have money for us, only our family but not for you tO spend it with anyone else.
WTF?!! How is it that he can tell me I can't spend it how I want too?? He knew about these plans and wants to be an ass and ruin them for me. My family also includes cousins, nieces and uncles so why is it that I can't spend any money doing things with them because he says so but we can use that same money on ourselves? It's not like I have people visiting all the time. It's a couple times a year. I feel like it's his form of controlling me and I don't like it!
He has no problem if I want to go out with friends/fam and stuff, he's very very easy going guy when it comes to that and never controlling but for some reason when someone comes to visit and we make plans while thy are here (because they are here to see me specifically not just visiting the area) it becomes this huge issue and always always turns into an argument. Thoughts??
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