DH has a daughter that he doesn't get the general visitation granted by the state for a child her age, and we have to drive 140 miles one way to visit with her. A tank of gas for our van is about $65-$70, and the weekends we go see her, we go through 2 tanks of gas between picking up SD#2 and driving to and from visiting SD #1.
We have a motion to file towards the end of the month to get visitation and child support modified, but the day we have set aside to file (our 2nd anniversary) is right after a Saturday we would spend with her.
Driving to go spend time with her is taking money away from our bills and debts. We have some money saved up to pay off our debts and a small($2K) emergency fund, and DH has taken out of the $ set aside to pay our debts(without my permission). We(He) has taken money out of our clother diaper savings and money saved up to pay my grandma back for the $ we borrowed the last time to try and buy a minivan. He hasn't touched the emergency fund.
I HATE that going to spend time with her is taking away money from our (that DH and I have together) children. Don't get me wrong, SD#1 is a sweetheart, but I hate the situation that it is putting us in just to spend time with her.
He pitched a fit when we spend $316 on groceries this month, because HE only budgets $200 for groceries. We CANNOT eat like he wants to for that little. Luckily, the electric bill for this month was only $93.13, but because we can't pay it when it is due because of when payday is, it will be almost $98. HE then has budgeted $300 for gas!
I REALLY hate that I may have to tell him he can't see his daughter like he wants to, but I don't know what else to do. I pinch every penny I can and use coupons as often as possible. It is impossible for me to find a job right now at almost 6 months, and being VERY obviously, pregnant. In order for me to go back to work after LO#3 is born, to keep getting the little bit of state help we do get, I would have to make $200 or less a month or more than $2800 to make up for what we do get.
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