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Would you have the same suspicion and what would you do?

My bf has been acting weird lately. I think he's hiding smoking cigars from me. He will randomly be like "im going to run to the gas station to get a drink" when we have drinks in the fridge. or he'll say hes gonna run to get this or that and it takes forever. A couple times I smelt it on him and called him out and he blamed it on someone else. Its not a big deal if he is smoking but its the fact that (if he is smoking) hes hiding it from me. How would I go about confronting him about it with out causing a fight?

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Asked by campbellb3421 at 6:17 PM on May. 10, 2011 in Relationships

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  • I would think that he's going to some sort of bar.

    Answer by Simplicity3 at 6:19 PM on May. 10, 2011

  • hes 20 so hes not allowed to

    Comment by campbellb3421 (original poster) at 6:21 PM on May. 10, 2011

  • so just tell him that....that you don't care that he IS, but you care that he is HIDING it from you.

    Answer by cheekycherub at 6:32 PM on May. 10, 2011

  • I thought it was legal for a 20 year old to smoke in the USA?
    I would just tell him he does not have hide it from me.

    Answer by louise2 at 6:37 PM on May. 10, 2011

  • it is? i was refering to the bar question.

    Comment by campbellb3421 (original poster) at 6:39 PM on May. 10, 2011

  • I would wonder if he's hiding his smoking, what else is he hiding from me? People who are dishonest about one thing are usually dishonest about a whole bunch of things. This could just be a sign that he is not the man you believed him to be. That would concern me much more than whether or not he's puffing on a cigar.

    Answer by NannyB. at 6:39 PM on May. 10, 2011

  • NannyB- i would think the exact same thing!
    But why would he hide smoking from you unless he knew you wouldnt approve?

    Answer by Lobelia at 6:57 PM on May. 10, 2011

  • OMG get over it if he smokes who cares, you're not his mom let him make his own choice if he smokes or not.

    Answer by CEWarsop at 11:57 AM on May. 11, 2011

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