Is it that she can't or she won't?
1. Tying shoes requires the development of fine motor skills. Let her build those hand muscles by using toys like legos, beading necklaces, play-doh, etc.
2. Let her practice tying something OTHER than her shoe. Let her do your shoe, a book that teachers lacing and tying, something like that. Sometimes kids need to master the skill and confidence through something off their own foot.
3. If she *can* do it and won't, then make it a game. Have a race to see if she can tie her shoe before you tie the other -- take your time, remember she'll be slower because the skill is new.
4. If she can but won't make a reward chart - sticker for each time she does her own shoes and after so many stickers a reward you can agree upon - maybe it's a special meal, trip to a park, etc.
at 1:26 PM on May. 11, 2011