My daughter has asked for help with a problem in her love-life involving two brothers. One has been her boyfriend off and on through high school and the other is his older brother. The brothers are close and her BFF/ex would not be able to handle it if she pursued a relationship with his older brother. My daughter thinks it may be a case of "only wanting what you can't have" now that she knows the older brother has feelings for her and she can't stop thinking about him. I don't want her to lose the BFF/ex as a friend but don't know what advice to give on aversion therapy for the thoughts of "what if...." she's having about the brother. Help!
Answer by lovinglife58 at 11:15 AM on Dec. 26, 2008
Answer by Anonymous at 6:26 PM on Dec. 5, 2008
Rules of dating-----You do not go out with your EX"S brothers/relatives.
It's not in her best interest to go out with him.
Answer by louise2 at 6:45 PM on Dec. 5, 2008
Answer by admckenzie at 10:09 PM on Dec. 5, 2008
Tell her to be mature enough and tell the older brother he has to work it out with his younger brother-- or no dice. She should respect their relationship enough to put it before her own desires. Maybe it isn't a case of the younger "wanting what he can't have" as much as it is the older brother proving he can have what the younger did--brotherly competition takes many forms--having two boys who are very close--I say to leave both alone. But also knowing that competition--I say she is just a pawn to prove something---something they may both laugh about after he has had his fun and dumps her. Tell her not to let her ego get in the way of a mature, selfless decision---because my bet is the older one just wants to 'prove' something!!!! He really doesn't have the feelings SHE thinks he has--------Â Â Â If he does, he will work it out with his brother BEFORE he even asks her out......if not, he isn't very mature.
Answer by Anonymous at 10:40 PM on Dec. 5, 2008
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