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well i want to have one more baby but my HUSBAND says no should i just get pergo and let thing happen or should i just want till he wants one more ...........what do u think

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LisaAnnPonce

Asked by LisaAnnPonce at 5:00 PM on Dec. 5, 2008 in Trying to Conceive

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  • OMG what kind of person are you to secretly get prego and not tell him?

    thats horrible.
    i think you should wait until you are BOTH READY!?!?!?!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:01 PM on Dec. 5, 2008

  • That would be a very bad idea. I got preg as an oops and my DH was NOT happy at first and it was so stressful. He came around but that was b/c it was an oops on BOTH of us. I can't imagine how awful it would have been if he thought I did it on purpose!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:04 PM on Dec. 5, 2008

  • Don't do it!!!! You husband might always resent that child, how unfair for him/her. How old is your last child? Maybe your hubby just needs some time. A good way to bring him around is to really give him some special attention and show that his needs are important to you too. MAybe he feels like you've been consumed by the kids and he's needing a little attention.
    woodj2

    Answer by woodj2 at 5:15 PM on Dec. 5, 2008

  • Let it happen girl! I am in the same boat. He will love the child regardless because its his. You don't have to tell him it was on purpose! You both made an oops :)
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:15 PM on Dec. 5, 2008

  • Do what you got to do to make you happy. If he dont want a baby let him put on a rain coat. If not both of you ae to adults, thats when responseability comes in. Eveybody man is not the same because others husband was upset maybe your will be happy in the end.Life is too short to be waiting for anything live your life like its your last day on earth.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:45 PM on Dec. 5, 2008

  • you have REAL problems within your marriage if you will let your selfish desire for a child get in the way of OPEN HONEST communication. Think about what kind of WIFE you are if you would really think that kind of behavior is loving towards your husband. How would you feel if you found out he had tricked YOU in some way to get something he wanted that you didn't???
    MamaCatCat

    Answer by MamaCatCat at 8:55 PM on Dec. 5, 2008

  • He may love the child regardless, but there will still be resentment. Every day he will look at that baby and know his wife betrayed him. An innocent child should not be used to satisfy your selfish wants. You made a vow to be true to your husband. You might as well have an affair IMO, it's just as damaging to your marriage. When he finds out what you are doing, are you prepared for the consequences?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:03 AM on Dec. 7, 2008

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