This evening, we ended up having dinner with my in-laws. They were already planning on having DH's ex-wife over for dinner. I've learned to accept that they see her regularly, even though she treated DH like crap at the end of their marriage and they never had any kids. I was fine with her, chatting with her and such, until my SIL called my MIL, and my MIL hands the phone to DH's ex saying, "Here, talk to your sister!" Something in me just snapped, and I've been in a funk ever since. I've felt for a very long time that my in laws, who have no idea what all that woman did to DH, would prefer her over me. I feel like my MIL is very high and mighty, and that she judges me for being an independent person, whereas their family relies heavily on each other. She seems to feel like if you didn't have the same upbringing her kids did, then you're a lost puppy on her doorstep that she has to be the surrogate mom for, but I don't feel like I need that. However, the ex accepts this, thus my MIL is all over her. It's all more complicated than I could ever fit here, but I guess my ultimate question is, do I have a right to feel weird about the way my MIL is with DH's ex? I thought I had accepted it, until the sister comment. It just drove home that my MIL feels closer to the ex than she does to me, I guess. Am I the weirdo here?
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