When we first started living together, we sat down and listed all the chores and picked the ones we wanted to do. That was 15 years ago. Our work schedules have changed many times, as well as the number of hours we each worked. Now we have three preteen kids who can help out too. Over all the years and changes, we've always talked about things (sometimes argued a lot about things).
One thing has been constant -- I am the one who sees what needs to be done and makes sure it gets done, either by me or by asking someone else to do it. I think it is the nature of women to take charge at home.
If he is willing to talk about it you have a chance of getting help, but you will still probably need to remind him often. Just a fact of life.
at 10:08 AM on May. 12, 2011