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My ex and i are trying to work things out so we can get back together . everybody says we should take it slow but how do you do that when the two of you hae been threw the war and have a newborn together? i need help how would you go about taking things slow?

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Asked by Anonymous at 5:11 PM on May. 12, 2011 in Relationships

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  • Try a date night? Don't result to sex. Just talk, spend time together. Take it easy. Don't rush.

    Answer by kansasmom1978 at 5:24 PM on May. 12, 2011

  • I don't think there is a Easy Way to take things Slow.. especially, if you & your ex want to be together & work things out- i really feel if things are meant to be; they will either work out or they won't no matter how Fast or Slow you take them- Just Follow what your Heart is telling you to do- the rest will fall into place.. you have to do what is right for you & your family- don't worry about what anyone else thinks you should do- Wishing you lots of luck:)


    Answer by daisyb at 5:26 PM on May. 12, 2011

  • Don't worry about how long it takes. If you work out the things that cause problems, go for it. If you don't you won't be together long.

    Answer by itsmesteph11 at 5:42 PM on May. 12, 2011

  • I wouldn't move back in right away. Focus on building your family and creating some stability for your new baby before that happens. Take your baby out for dinner or to the park together. Rent a movie at home one night. Talk about what you want, and why it didn't work out last time so you can have a foundation to build on before you move much farther. Obviously, you have a new baby together, and nobody sets out wanting to have their family not work out, but if the old problems never get discussed and resolved, it would be harder to get a fresh start.

    Answer by Mom-2-3-Girlz at 5:44 PM on May. 12, 2011

  • counseling you both need to do this so there will be some one to mediate to avoid arguing. ask yourselvies why you broke up in the first place, weigh the pros and cons of being together and dont use the baby as a pros. the baby should not be a factor in the two of you getting or staying together because if it wasnt a good situation before you broke up it will be even worst possibly if thats the main reason for doing it.

    Answer by cakes258 at 6:08 PM on May. 12, 2011

  • It depends on the context of the whole situation, and what the "war" entailed. Your newborn should be both of your priorities, regardless..and hopefully you're not living together, which would defeat the purpose. Taking it slow really just means don't jump back into it seeing each other every day, sleep overs, etc. If you do see each other a lot b/c of the child, make sure THAT is the focus, not you two. Just try to rebuild the trust and/or a stronger foundation for the relationship. God luck!

    Answer by lexi8622 at 7:49 PM on May. 12, 2011

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