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Abstain or not

being in a sexual relationship then getting engaged is it reasonable to abstain til after marriage?

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Asked by cakes258 at 5:19 PM on May. 12, 2011 in Relationships

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  • If you have already slept with the guy what is the point of stopping?

    Answer by kansasmom1978 at 5:21 PM on May. 12, 2011

  • um nope..i started having sex with my dh after two weeks of dating yea that was kinda early and ppl may look down on it but hey it lasted we are married now...several yrs later! and truthfully who would really want to marry someone that was not any good

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:21 PM on May. 12, 2011

  • what does it matter he's already had the cookies...

    Answer by Esam at 5:22 PM on May. 12, 2011

  • im with kansasmom1978

    Answer by kylansmommy09 at 5:35 PM on May. 12, 2011

  • It's not unreasonable but it is kinda strange. It's ok to have sex with a guy you barely know but if you know him well enough to marry him you want to abstain? See how crazy that sounds?

    Answer by itsmesteph11 at 5:37 PM on May. 12, 2011

  • I have heard of people holding off for a little bit before marriage to make their wedding night special and exciting...but I don't have that kind of control. LOL

    Answer by Mom-2-3-Girlz at 6:02 PM on May. 12, 2011

  • in the premarrital class couples are encouraged to abstain til after the wedding

    Comment by cakes258 (original poster) at 8:41 PM on May. 12, 2011

  • encouraged is just that ...encouraged. You don't have to And there is no way I would

    Answer by kansasmom1978 at 9:07 PM on May. 12, 2011

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