I have had a friend for several years. She has mostly been there for me when I needed someone, and same goes the other way. But since I have asked her to be my brides maid she has moved to a completely different planet! She had the nerve to come to my house and tell me about how I was wrong because I only believed in 1 God and was made I didn't believe in such a thing as "mother nature" that God decided the weather. She says she is Paegan (sp?) but believes in Jesus and multiple Gods. I have always known this about her and never once said anything to her about it because I know she is set in her ways and wont convert to Christianity. I know I am called to love her all the same. Then I called her the other day to say hi and ask her how she is doing and she was short and rude and sounded mad. I am assuming from the conversation we had a few days before about religion. I just feel like I could fill her spot with someone who isnt going to lash out at me because I believe differently than she does. Should I just suck it up since I asked in the first place? Or tell her kindly that I don't think it will work out?
Answer by cdecker83 at 9:53 PM on May. 12, 2011
Answer by emmyandlisa at 9:52 PM on May. 12, 2011
i would tell her that she is dismissed_ BUT you should only do that if you are willing to lose the friendship for good...if you still want to be her friend suck it up and have her as your bmaid. i personally would sever ties with such a sour grape of a woman..i would cut her off like a tumor..i have no time for people like this in my life..talk about an emotional vampire...
Answer by gwen20 at 9:53 PM on May. 12, 2011
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Answer by lynnlang at 10:09 PM on May. 12, 2011
Depending on how important your friendship is, I would sit down and talk with her. If she doesn't want to talk or resolve the issue, then I think you already have your answer about what to do. I had issues when I asked my SIL to be my bridesmaid. She did ABSOLUTELY nothing to help with the wedding and was complaining all the time. However, because she was family I put up with it. I wish people would be more considerate and if they can't handle something like this then graciously decline it, instead of accepting to be a brides maid and then constantly adding to the bride's stress. Good luck.
Answer by Ashoonik at 10:22 PM on May. 12, 2011
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