About 10 years ago my BIL died and my husband and I kinda stepped in to help my SIL. She and my hubby had grown up close and so it was only natural - I get that. However, I feel like there is now 3 people in this marriage and it is really getting to me. I love her to death, but she relies way too much on him and is now starting to make little digs at me ("we're so close" or "if he dies you'll have to bury me too"). I have tried and tried over the years to see it for what it is: sibling love. But he is much, much closer to her than he is to me, he would prefer talking to her (he says that's not true but the writing is on the wall), etc. She also likes to point out that she has raised my children, too and tends to know them better than I do. Which is completely false - they do go over to her house sometimes on the weekend but she certainly didn't "raise" them.
So: I've tried to talk to DH and SIL over the years and both have pretty much said it's my problem - not theirs. I've tried to be understanding and accommodating but I've about had it. My hubby did make the comment that ever since my mom died (in 2003) I haven't really been the same. Which is true: she was my best friend. Now I just feel lonely.
Anyone else in a similar situation? How have you handled it? Bear in mind that I have tried to talk to these people and they don't get it...I'm the one with the problem, apparently. Thanks!!
Asked by Anonymous at 8:03 AM on May. 13, 2011 in Relationships
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