as some of you might know from my posts my husband and i separated on sunday due to his addiction to marijuana and his ptsd issues that cause him to be aggressive toward the kids (mainly if he doesn't have his happy drug - marijuana) so we had two ongoing problems. the ptsd he wasn't taking seriously enough to go and get real help with the VA - they have on-call professionals for when it gets bad and he didn't take advantage of any of that. i've been putting up with his PTSD for 2 years and tired of the walking on egg shells and the way he treats the kids.
anyway- he's been staying with his mom since sunday. his main reasoning was to get cleaned up and stop spending all our money on weed. he wanted to go thru the withdrawal process there instead of here. i do respect that decision. but i also told him he cannot come back until he gets REAL help for his PTSD. he wasn't thrilled about that but i told him our children should not have to suffer anymore emotional abuse.
my dad worked at the VA for over 30 years and is retired. he was able to pull some strings by calling the Head Office of the VA in Washington and get him an appointment this morning at 8am. My husband was like "well he didn't need to do that" and didn't seem really grateful, but as long as he went was all that mattered. so by 10am when i hadn't heard from him, i tried giving him a call and no answer. my mind immediately thought he was still in bed sleeping, blowing off this major appointment. i also text his mom to see if she knew if he made it - and of course - the bitch ignored me.
well, i called the office he went to and spoke to the receptionist. he said he's pretty sure he made it but he would put me through to the psychologist he spoke with personally. i tried to tell him that wasn't necessary - if my husband's name rang bells then it's likely he was there. but he insisted on putting me thru anyway - saying it was no problem. i should've just hung up when i was on hold, the psychologist made me feel like an idiot. he said he was there, and asked if my husband doesn't communicate with me on these things. which he doesn't, but it felt more like a jab at me. like "no wonder he doesn't - you're stalking him" type of thing. i told him basically my husband has missed his PTSD appointments before, I couldn't reach him and since this was a major appointment in more ways than one, i was getting concerned. The guy just made me feel like a total ass, and a stupid one at that.
Should I have just left well enough alone - or, given my husband's track record - would you have done the same?
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