Am I the only one that would be upset about this?
Dh dated Kelsey for 18-20mo before I met him, and they had a horribly messy breakup. Neither here, nor there.
Dh and I were invited to Dh's long-time friend's wedding last what, September? October? Just so happened the friend works with the ex's dad, and the ex's whole family was there. That's no problem.
While 8mo pregnant, (had only met the groom a handful of times) I sat down at the reception at a table of people my age, hoping to make friends while Dh was taking pictures. (He was in the wedding party.) Two hours passed! I finally get up, and start making my way out to the restroom. I'm walking through t&e tables, and I hear a whistle. (that's our call for eachother in a crowd.) I turn to see Dh sitting at a table with Kelsey, her mom, dad, and fiance. He had two empty cups stacked in front of him, had a plate from dinner and half a piece of cake in front of him. He'd been there a while. He introduced me, and I sat and had a civil conversation, trying to give them every chance I'd give any stranger. The whole hour we were at the table, Kelsey kept talking about things that had happened when they were dating, so, bored, her fiance and I talked about science, history, etc., as we really weren't included in the conversation they were having. As we went to leave, both Kelsey and her mom wanted hugs. I was extremely uncomfortable, but gave in since everyone Dh knows uses that as a typical greeting. I made no inclination that I wanted to see them again, never offered an, "if you're in the area stop by or.call..."
Saturday is Dh's bday. Yesterday, I went to check the mail, and there was a card in Dh's name from them. It felt like it ought to be a graduation invite, (their son is a senior this year) and couldn't figure out why she would address it just to him. Dh opened it. It was a birthday card.
I'm in no way threatened by this girl, as Dh and I have 5 yrs and 2 beautiful baby boys. But, I AM annoyed dh gave them our new address, and talks to the ex's parents over the phone pretty frequently, I mean, once.every couple weeks. I'm upset he left me sitting alone to mingle with them. I'm just upset he keeps putting me in a position to get jealous.
How would you feel? I guess I'm coming across as needing some approval for the way I feel, but really, I just want to be assured I was being overly lenient, and not about to blow over something small. I look at it this way, I would NEVER ditch him to spend time with my ex's family, let alone make him sit with them, NOR give them my address! Is it ok to confront the issue now? It's been brought up, and he knows how thrilled I am about it, and I'd never tell dh who he could or could not be friends with. But with everything I picked up from them, and learning that after that night, Kelsey called off the engagement, seems to me like her mom is just keeping her name in there, just in case.
Answer by lexi8622 at 12:16 PM on May. 13, 2011
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Answer by PURPULbutterfly at 10:51 AM on May. 13, 2011
Unfortunately men's brains aren't wired the same as women's. yeah he shouldn't have left you alone for that long, should have come and got you to join them straight away. But other then that.... there's nothing to have your nose out of joint about. It's nice that his ex's parents made the effort to send a card. More people should be so kind... then world would be a less angry place to raise your kids in.
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