My 23 year old cousin does this and it drives me crazy.
She has 2 children by different fathers and has been married twice -- but the husbands and the kids fathers are all different men. There has been several others too....
pretty much, every month ( sometimes twice a month) she will have a new boyfriend... and they get completely involved with the kids ( they have ALL moved in with her as soon as they start dating) ...
We basically had a family intervention and told her to please try to make better choices for her kids.... and we though it worked because she was going on 2 months with no new men.... well today she changed her facebook status to in a relationship... all of her friends are condratulating her and everything over this ... well I know this boy because we went to school together ( i am 1 year older than her) ... and he is a huge partier, and already has ATLEAST 3 kids ( that I know of for sure) ... one look at his profile and it has all kinds of picutres of him pariting ( drinking, smoking a bong ) and probably over 50 of him with several different girls - most of the sprawled on him and half naked...
This just drives me crazy and I cant just ignore it because I love her kids ( I have them alot ) ... but obviously sitting her down and talking to her doesnt work....
Asked by Anonymous at 12:52 PM on May. 13, 2011 in Parenting Debate
Answer by maxsmom11807 at 12:54 PM on May. 13, 2011
Okay lets play devils advocate what if she is looking for the right guy and maybe she is going about it all wrong maybe you need to sit her down and say having sex with guys and moving in with them before you get to know them is a huge booty call now your the move in booty call. You need to tell her if she looking for a guy she should first stop find a stable place and figure out what she has to offer and stop chasing lust around. Maybe she needs to learn the difference between love and lust???
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 12:59 PM on May. 13, 2011
She obviously has insecurity issues, try hanging out with her doing positive things to restore her confidence. GL!
Answer by June_Mama09 at 1:01 PM on May. 13, 2011
Answer by mom2mybabes at 1:05 PM on May. 13, 2011
Answer by minnesotanice at 1:28 PM on May. 13, 2011
Answer by prdVirgobby at 1:34 PM on May. 13, 2011
How old are the kids? Maybe point out to her that you do not mind her dating, but that it hurts the kids to get attached to a new guy and have them leave. If the kids are old enough have her talk to them about how it makes them feel when the new guys move in and how they feel when they leave.
Answer by Alanaplus3 at 2:00 PM on May. 13, 2011
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