This has a lot of BG, and I'm sorry, but I'll try to be as concise as possible.
In Tri1 I had no want for any intimacy and it drove my DH and I apart. I'd be like "I don't want to" and he'd be like "well I do!" and finally it just got to the point where I was like "I'm not giving you permission to RAPE me. If I don't want sex I have the right to NOT have sex!" This shut him the hell up.
In Tri2 I tried more to have sex with my husband, since nothing else even works to sedate him. Well, we had to move and he wanted to stay where we were at- with his parents who wanted us to get rid of our cat, and I couldn't stand to give our cat up, so I was going to move in with my grandma. For him to come with me, he struck this deal that instead of having sex every third day, we go to every other day. He says he was just trying to "lighten" the situation, but IDK. Long story short, I agreed. Its now off, this deal.
Now we're in Tri3 and I'm too tired, or have heartburn, etc etc. I've got this huge list of complaints and reasons why I want to avoid sex. The last time we had sex I seriously didn't do a thing- I was just like "for the love of god, finish faster". I don't want to have sexual chores, and the reason I started scheduling it in Tri2 was so that our relationship didn't totally fall apart. Now my DH is getting pissy with me, and moody, and I don't know what to tell him, or how to handle him. He's acting like a two year old that needs a good long time out.
I just need to know, WWYD? How can I get the message across that if I want sex I'll initiate it, but when he asks every three hours, every day, that it just puts me off it more because I'm sick of that being the only thing that pleases him?
Mind you, I'm not asking to hear about how I need to leave DH/etc etc etc. I've tried asking this on a different website and that's all I heard. I just want to know what you would do, if you were in my situation. I'm kinda hoping someone's in the same boat as me, or has BT:DT so I can stop walking blind.
Asked by Anonymous at 1:06 PM on May. 13, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by millerx5 at 4:32 PM on May. 13, 2011
Answer by millerx5 at 4:34 PM on May. 13, 2011