So I originally joined this site to stock up on mommy-advice (I'm pregnant with my first, due in January) but now I'm just panicking and don't know where else to turn. I think my husband's cheating on me. His behavior's been really erratic lately - coming home late, never is where he says he'll be, etc, and then yesterday I found condoms in the pocket of the pants he wore to work....we stopped using condoms about 4 months after we got married. I wanted to ask my girlfriends for advice but when I did they said I should leave him because "its not like hes the father of my children or anything." We haven't told anyone but our parents about the pregnancy because we've had a really hard time conceiving (it took us almost two years to get pregnant the first time, and after two first-trimester miscarriages I decided not to tell anyone until month #4). I don't want my friends to know I'm pregnant incase I lose the baby and I become the object of their pity once again, but if they don't know then I feel like they can't give me any good advice, so I'm putting it all out here, in cyberworld instead. HELP PLEASE! I can't figure out whether to confront him or leave him or hope things get better when the baby comes...DESPERATE OVER HERE!Answer Question
Based on my personal experience.....
1) Why leave before you even know if it's true or not? That seems to be putting the cart before the horse so to speak.
2) Confront if you have suspicions. Confront in a manner that is as logical, calm and rational as you possibly can. The more emotional you are, the more emotional he will respond. If both become overally emotionally, no actual conversing with happen, all that will take place is reactionary emotional outburst. Both need to be calm and rational for a productive conversation to take place.
3) If you feel he is not being honest, for whatever reason. Then proceed to find evidence either supporting fidelity or infidelity.
4) Once you actually know for sure. Then you must decide how to proceed from there. How you will/should proceed will depend greatly on if you wish to stay married or not.
Answer by pixie_trix at 7:31 PM on May. 13, 2011
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Answer by PatriciaofMN at 7:42 PM on May. 13, 2011
Answer by SabrenaLeigh at 7:44 PM on May. 13, 2011
Just saying, If this were me, I'd be asking a lot of questions especially since you found the condoms! What if he would have found them, wouldn't he be asking you questions? I mean, he's" your husband", why can't you two have a conversation about the way your feeling? If your having doubts because he's"coming home late and condoms in the pocket, you have every right to demand answers! It's unfortunate you have to feel this way when it should be a happy time in your life. I wish you the best!
Answer by anichols1 at 7:45 PM on May. 13, 2011
Answer by jaybird495 at 7:53 PM on May. 13, 2011
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