i don't know the first thing about autism, so i'm not going to be arrogant enough to presume to know anything about it. my question is serious and not a jab at autistic children.
i encountered an autistic child tonight, probably about 4 years old, at our community pool. however, since we aren't labelled it's not like i knew beforehand he had autism. he came up to my 2 year old and took her toy away from her, which, sorry, i'm not going to allow, and took the toy back, politely saying "no, she had it first". his father was 5 feet away watching the whole thing and did nothing. so he swam away, and not 10 seconds later came back and took it again. now i was irritated, but only because the father was still watching and not doing or saying anything to correct his kid. so i took it back and simply said "no". after the second time his dad called him over and he was reluctant but he swam over to him.
the whole time i'm sitting there thinking this father was an ass and a lazy one at that. he should teach his kid not to just go up to people and take things from them. well, about 10 minutes after that, the boy was all up in my mom's personal space and she was with my 4 and 1 year old. she didn't say anything but the dad did intervene that time, with a big grin on his face, and said "sorry. he's autistic and doesn't know any better" and i overheard everything.
i did feel guilty for taking the toy back, now that i knew he had autism. but then i wondered to myself if i should feel guilty? should the same rules of mannerisms be waived when it comes to autistic children? do they simply not know better? if this is the case, i think his father should've been much more proactive instead of allow him to snatch things from other kids more than once and do literally nothing about it. i was more concerned over this father's lack of parenting skills than of the boy's lack of manners anyway.
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My younger brother has mild autism and sadly I see so many examples of not teaching him manners. We went out for lunch with family a few days ago and he ate his lo mien by shoveling it out of the bowl into his mouth like he was trying to drink the noodles, constantly talked with his mouth full and lets out horribly loud belches at the table. He's not a child, he's in his 20s and these habits could be curbed if only someone would keep after him about them. Instead we are all expected to look the other way and ignore his obnoxious behavior.
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