I read an article the other day about the pressure mother's are under because of the standards that society puts on us, breast or bottle, school, activities, food we feed our children and so on.... I don't necessarily agree with the specific points made in the article. But it did get me thinking.
I find myself that I feel pressured to do/try differnt things based on what my friends do with their kids. I also feel that I put a lot of pressure on myself as far as what I expect from myself as a mother.
Are there things you do or did that you felt pressured to do?
I have 4 kids and feel guilty when I don't give them quality one on one time often enough. When we have take out and possibly no veggies at dinner. When I'm up late(can't sleep because I'm worrying about crap) and know that they will be the one's to pay for it tomorrow because I can't possibly be at my best when I'm so tired. When I feel I need help but am too proud to ask because as mom's we should be able to do it all. I stopped breast feeding my first at 3 months because he was biting. I missed having that time with him. When I'm in the hospital with my baby because he's sick and the other kids have their lives disrupted because I'm not there and they go to grandmas or daddy doesn't do all that I do. I co-slept with my children (one not so much, she slept better alone). I have a 2 month old and I am too tired to sleep with him. I feel guilty that I did with my other kids but I'm not with him. Things have changed in my life and I have a lot more responsibility now then I did then. I don't feel it would be safe to sleep with him in case I fall into a very deep sleep. But I feel guilty that his brother and sisters had that constant contact with me and he doesn't. Ridiculous I know, it's in his best interest but I feel guilty none the less.
What are some pressures you feel?
Answer by ImaginationMama at 3:01 AM on May. 14, 2011
Answer by Fistandantalus at 9:30 AM on May. 14, 2011
Answer by salexander at 10:34 AM on May. 14, 2011
Answer by lambdarose at 11:07 PM on May. 14, 2011