So a couple of days ago my DH days he's going fishing with me sisters bf on sat. Ok, I'm fine with that, I take it as an opportunity to hang with my sister who I don't see as often as I'd like. Friday night I'm at work and I get a text from my DH that my sisters bf invited us over that night to sleep there since they want o go fishing "first thing in the morning." Okay, well I work until midnight and I'm already tired but I want to go too, I don't want to be home alone with my DS, cause I rarely see my DH bc we both work a lot. Now again, im at work and will be there until midnight so I expect my DH who's as home with our DS to get things reay to go... I.E. the diaper bag, play pen, DS's food, and such. Instead I get home about 1230am to straighten up messes, take care of dishes, and get all of the stuff ready for the night. FIRST QUESTION: WAS IT TOO MUCH TO EXPECT THOSE THINGS TO BE TAKEN CARE OF?
Next, were at my sisters, no sleep until late, oh yeah and i gotta work Saturday night too but DH does not. 3 hrs later DH and sisters bf are heading out the door to go. No problem there except DS has woken up bc of the noise that's been made. Did my DH take 30 mins to change a diaper or give him a bottle? Nope... He does nothing. So here I am tired as .... And my DH doesn't even acknowledge our son so of course its my responsibility to go get him. And DH left. QUESTION 2: SHOULD I NOT EXPECT MY DH TO FEED AND CHANGE OUR DS WHEN I WORKED LATE THE NIGHT BEFORE AND HE DIDN'T AND I WORK THE NEXT DAY AND HE'S OFF?
There were no words said between us before he left so I tested him asking why its got to be my responsibility alone to take care of our DS. The responce I get is "you knew we were leaving first thing in the morning, sorry he woke up, damn" QUESTION 3: DID I OVERREACT?
I love my son and he's my responsibility, I know that. But I'm not the only parent here and i expect help every once in a while!
Answer by meooma at 12:14 PM on May. 14, 2011
Your son is both of your responsibility! He should help you out too! I don't understand some men sometimes. My BIL is like that to he thinks the woman should do EVERYTHING!! Oh man I hate that!
Answer by momavanessa at 12:16 PM on May. 14, 2011
Answer by stace101 at 12:23 PM on May. 14, 2011
Answer by BabyDoll1110 at 1:11 PM on May. 14, 2011
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 1:16 PM on May. 14, 2011
unless your husband is a mind reader.... you over reacted.
No where in your post does it say "I asked him to do this and he chose not to"...
it says "is it too much to expect"... yes, MIND READING IS too much to expect.
Next time ASK him to do what you need done.
Answer by Anonymous at 1:58 PM on May. 14, 2011
Answer by M.Galvan at 2:23 PM on May. 14, 2011
Answer by alliep2011 at 2:41 PM on May. 14, 2011
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