I posted this last night but i'm still looking for more input
my babysitters sisters son, Collin, is autistic and was just diagnosed in the past couple weeks. She watches my kid at my house a few days per week. well, she basically started taking advantage of our house by having too many ppl here everyday. she would have her sister, Collin, sisters boyfriend and her mom all at my house all day!!!!! I had to put an immediate stop to it. it was just too much! I'm sure you agree??? Anyway, for the longest time she just wanted to bring collin but there were some problems with him and my daughter and i had to address it by telling her he couldn't come anymore either. i mean, my dd was uncomfortable around him for a bunch of reasons. at that point we didnt' know he was autistic. So.... now that we know, she sent me an email basically saying that now that we know she would like for us to learn as much as we can about the condition so we can interact with him. she went on to say that summer is coming and because of his condition he doesn't understand why he cant come to my house everyday and she requested a set schedule of days when he is welcome to come so he has something to look forward to.
Im sorry that he has this condition but why should that change anything about our arrangement? Am I wrong? why should my family have to "give him something to look forward to"? This is her job and its not her kid and the kids mom doesn't even work so its an a childcare issue! I feel like im in a lose/lose situation, if i say he can't come then im going to be labeled insensitive but if i allow him to come back my dd is going to have to deal with all of the issues they were having. What would you do? I'd hate to find a new sitter cause we've had her for years.
I'm willing to make a compromise but what is reasonable... once a month? I know she wants me to say "ok, bring him every Wednesday" but thats not going to happen.
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