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How do i deal with a 13 yr old who thinks the world hates her and wont listen to nothing adult content

she thinks im always wrong and never wants to do what i ask and wants to back talk all the time running out of oppants please help

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jdeere1

Asked by jdeere1 at 3:45 PM on May. 14, 2011 in Teens (13-17)

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  • Is this something new? Or has she always been difficult to parent?


    IF this is something new then you need to find out what in her life has changed.


    IF this is not new, if she has always been a challenging child then you need to sit and have a VERY HONEST look at your parenting... are you an effect parent?  Have you always followed through?  Do you set reasonable expectations and make them clear?  


    IF you are very honest and your parenting is lacking... then you need to seek some guidance on tough love to get back on track.


    IF you are very honest and your parenting is good, but you have a difficult child... then you need to seek some guidance on ways to parent her unique personality.

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:53 PM on May. 14, 2011

  • Post the rules of the house and stick to them. Take away THE most important thing in the world to her for an appropriate length of time for discipline. Talk to her a lot and do things together to keep a good relationship going. Don't ask if she would like to do something tell her you will be doing it that day. Give her plenty of notice. Make it fun things that you can enjoy together. You need to be consistent but loving and always there for her. The teen years are tough but you can get through them! You might want to browse a good book store for teen parenting books too. GL
    whitepeppers

    Answer by whitepeppers at 5:12 PM on May. 14, 2011

  • tough love. take away priviledges and maybe seek some counseling or do some community service together.
    daerca574

    Answer by daerca574 at 8:14 PM on May. 14, 2011

  • FIRST HAVE SHE ALWAYS BEEN DISRESPECTFUL BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT IT IS AND GETTING A BOOK WILL NOT TELL YOU JACK ABOUT YOUR CHILD,BECAUSE NINE TIMES OUT OF TEN THE PERSON THAT WROTE DON'T HAVE A CLUE ABOUT RAISING A CHILD CAUSE THEY DON'T HAVE ANY. AND IF SHE HAS JUST STARTED THIS CRAP,THEN YOU GET HER AND FIND OUT JUST WHAT THE PROBLEM IS.AND IF SHE HAS ALWAYS MOUTHY THEN IT'S TIME FOR YOU AND HER FATHER IF HE'S IN THE PICTURE TO NIP THIS MESS IN THE BUDCLEAR HER ROOM OF EVERYTHING EXCEPT HER BED AND DRESSER,TAKE HER CELL AWAY.ONLY ALLOW HER TO USE THE COMPUTER FOR HOMEWORK,DON'T ALLOW HER TO USE THE HOME PHONE.YOU GIVE HER A TIME LIMIT SHE EITHER ACT LIKE SHE WAS RAISED OR SHE LIVE LIKE A PRISONER.YOU HAVE TO UNDERSTAND HORMONES HAVE KICK IN,SHE HAS START NOTICING BOYS MORE,AND OF COURSE YOU ARE OLD AND TO THEM YOU WERE NEVER A KID,YOU JUST CAME INTO THIS WORLD ALL GROWN UP LOL.REASURE HER THAT YOU ARE ALWAYS THERE FOR WHATEVER
    MADUKES402

    Answer by MADUKES402 at 10:14 PM on May. 14, 2011

  • MAY COME .LET HER KNOW YOU TO WAS ONCE A 13Y/O YOUNG LADY,SO YOU UNDERSTAND THE FEELINGS SHE,S HAVING,AND TELL HER ALTHOUGH YOU ARE A MOTHER THER ARE SOME THINGS ABOUT THIS WORLD AND ABOUT LIFE THAT YOU ARE STILL LEARNING.TELL YOU DON'T KNOW EVERYTHING THERE IS TO KNOW AND JUST MAYBE IF SHE GAVE YOU A CHANCE AND TRUST YOU MAYBE THE TWO OF CAN LEARN THE LESSON OF LIFE AND THE WAY THE WORLD WORK TOGETHER.
    MADUKES402

    Answer by MADUKES402 at 10:21 PM on May. 14, 2011

  • i agree, rules are rules... tough love is the answer at times,...
    asil

    Answer by asil at 12:16 AM on May. 15, 2011

  • Is this a new behavior? Something may have happened at school. Does she have to deal with bullies at school?
    _Tam_

    Answer by _Tam_ at 1:41 AM on May. 15, 2011

  • take her to church !!!!
    alliep2011

    Answer by alliep2011 at 5:09 PM on May. 15, 2011

  • sit down and have a one on one talk with her where there are no other distractions and ask her what is wrong and what is bothering her. try to get her to open up to you
    Christmaslver68

    Answer by Christmaslver68 at 9:00 PM on May. 15, 2011

  • Be consistent. BListen. Be loving.
    tootoobusy

    Answer by tootoobusy at 1:06 AM on May. 16, 2011

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