My cousin just got married a few months ago and now has a step son who is 8. She's been dating this guy for about 6 months, and her step son still calls her by her first name, and not "mom". He's just not there yet.
Today she posted a status that says "I just got a compliment as to how well my DS acts in public! I'm a proud momma today!"
Um... you didn't TEACH him that. You might have some SMALL amount of influence, but really? You didn't RAISE him. Sometimes it irritates me when ppl call themselves "moms" when they really haven't dealt with the real hurdles of being a mother. I'd be proud if someone said that to me, sure... but I raised my kids from conception to current age! I feel like she doesn't deserve the credit... at least not yet. You can't jump in at age 8 and take the credit for almost a decade of blood, sweat and tears! She needs a few more years under her belt before she can take credit for his behavior.
Asked by Anonymous at 8:20 PM on May. 14, 2011 in School-Age Kids (5-8)
She will learn quickly if the kids are ok with what she is doing. There is potential she may ruin her chance to be a parent down the road. Ive been a step mom for 10 years. Going into it I figured that they would call me what they felt comfortable calling me. It was never mom and I was fine with it. I knew i would have push them away if i pushed the mom title. I am a parent to my step kids, never mom and your cousin should not expect anything more and even the title parent is something you earn. SHe is over stepping her boundaries and she will be put in her place if not by you then by the kid!
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