My son is 11yrs old and a few months ago I told him him ex is not bio dad. He was introduced to bio dad and has seen him twice which one of those he spent a weekend with him. But I laid out conditions to bio dad, like to visit him in our city, and pay some child support before more overnight visits with him. He has not come to see him and when I told him that we should set up payment plan and visitation shedule he said he didnt need to prove anything to me and that the decision is on my son. I dont trust him because he has not proved to me that he actually wants to be part of his life. He has two girls now and he seems to be really involved with them but he doesnt want to compromise and make an effort to meet me half way. He told me he rather move on then deal with me and that I should tell my son because I set up these rules. What should I do now?Answer Question
Answer by emmyandlisa at 9:40 PM on May. 14, 2011
Answer by Alanaplus3 at 9:49 PM on May. 14, 2011
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Answer by Mikayla_lynn at 4:32 PM on May. 15, 2011
IMO your son should be allowed to see his father regardless of if he pays. I think visitation and child support should be kept separate..
Exactly. You should not be able to hold your son's life hostage because you want child support. He is going to tell your son when he is older that YOU wouldn't allow visits because you wanted money and it will be the truth. This is very childish.
Answer by matthewscandi at 5:23 PM on May. 15, 2011
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Answer by Ms.Gwen at 2:35 PM on May. 16, 2011
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