My friends are able to drop their son of at ANY time for ANY reason and take some time for themselves. Right now, they have an 11 day haitus from parenting as a "Mothers Day Gift". I'm not really a fan of super long times away from my kids, but a night out with my husband?! That would be great! My mom is ALWAYS telling us we need to do a once-a-week date night, but she refuses to watch my kids so we can.
My sister, my brother, my grandparents and my parents are all within 20 minutes or LESS of my house. None of them watch my kids. I have three. I realize it's different having three instead of just one, but how is it that so many of my friends' parents are DYING to watch the kids for any length of time, and for me it's like pulling teeth?! My kids are well-behaved, they LOVE spending time with the family, and I've never asked for more than a few hours, or twice we asked for an overnight...
My parents want to be paid, at the very least. Most of the time not even money will convince them to do it.
Answer by Octobersmom at 9:50 PM on May. 14, 2011
my dad has never ever watched my kids. my mil did for a couple of hours when i was having a new baby so my husband could be there, but then he went back home and that was that. i don't think you should assume your parents will watch your kids simply because it's their grandkids. when i am done raising these kids and i am older, babysitting is not high up on my agenda. spending time with them is one thing, but taking it for granted that they are going to babysit is just rude. and your grandparents are still alive? how blessed you are. if my grandparents were still alive, dumping my 3 kids on them would be the furthest thing from my mind. i don't think because someone is related to you makes them obligated to watch your kids unless it's some kind of emergency. if they offer, that's one thing, but i don't think you should think you're entitled to it.
Answer by princessbeth79 at 9:50 PM on May. 14, 2011
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Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 9:51 PM on May. 14, 2011
but what you're saying in essence is that they have no say in the matter. their opinion doesn't count. when you say they have no reason not to babysit you're not taking into consideration they simply don't feel like it. that is a valid reason.
Answer by princessbeth79 at 9:58 PM on May. 14, 2011
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