DS's bio-dad is in jail. he plays no major role in DS's life.. although personally, i'd like to change that. he'd 'like to' as well- but he was always getting in trouble, doing drugs, etc-- in the past, that prevented it. as far as i know/hope, he's off drugs.. just waiting for his sentencing which could be the final 2 months in rehab, or prison time (2-6 years).
I want him to do good; stay clean, accomplish everything. I care about him, no doubt. But he wont be involved with DS until he can prove he'll stay clean, etc.... Anyways!
So I wrote him; just a friendly note- what i expected from him, how he hurt me (again) by going to jail, whats going on with DS, etc. He wrote back that he cant wait til he holds me in his arms, to kiss me, etc. i wrote NOTHING sexual to him.
He knows I'm in a relationship- knows i'd never get back together with him... but has it that we belong together, that i will be his wife, him my husband, etc..
Should i stop writing him? it's the only way he knows about DS-- which lets face it, i personally feel he has NO RIGHT to know about DS... but its not about me and my desires-- its about DS, and should he want to see/know his BD, he should have that option, right? (BD does write little notes at teh end of each letter for DS to read and respond to)
to DS, BD is just a guy-- the guy may come around, may not.. might write, might not, etc. DS does know that thats his dad- some days, he shows interest in him, other days- most days- DS wants nothing to do with him. DS is 5.
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