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Toddler Emotional Health??

I am concerned about my 3 year old little girls emotional well being.
I dont know if its the terrible 2's just hitting or something else, but we have been through a lot my and my little girl, her dad and i seperated back in Nov. of 2010 and now were on the verge of getting a divorce. She seems to be acting out more, and purposley not listening when i call her name or tell her to stop jumping on the sofa couch...wich is a no no in our house. When she starts throwing tantrumes, she screams and makes a hitting motion with her fist, when i put her in time out she wailes her fists and screams lots more....am i doing something wrong, is this part of terrible 2's or a mix or that and something else...HELP!

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 9:35 AM on May. 15, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • She is adjusting to a lot in her young life. Make sure she knows that she is loved by both of you. Spend one on one time with her and make sure dad does too. Be consistent with what is allowed and what isn't. Be firm, but loving, and matter of fact. Keep up with the time outs. If you are consistent with them they usually work. Or you can take THE most important thing in the world to her away for an appropriate time. Every kid has that special thing/activity. Give her a warning and stick to it. GL
    whitepeppers

    Answer by whitepeppers at 9:41 AM on May. 15, 2011

  • Shes adjusting poorly and probably angry it sounds like. Make sure she knows its not allowed, seek a little therapy if you want, and ask her how she feels and what would help her feel better about her new life.
    GirlWithANikon

    Answer by GirlWithANikon at 10:40 AM on May. 15, 2011

  • Be firm in your rules and let her know you love her, but that her behavior is not okay.
    scout_mom

    Answer by scout_mom at 1:27 PM on May. 15, 2011

  • be consistent and compassionate she is going through alot right now and needs to know that you are there for her no matter what you and daddy are going through. Give her extra hugs and kisses and let her know that you don't like the bad behavior and you want her to tell you what is going on in her head(you'd be surprised as to what is going on sometimes); be firm in enforcing your rules and her bad behavior is not acceptable. Just let her know that there are different ways in letting you know what is going on and be patient and listen when she is talking
    Christmaslver68

    Answer by Christmaslver68 at 7:18 PM on May. 21, 2011

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