Okay...I'm 8 months pregnant and I've been telling DH for the last several months that I did not want his mother and grandmother in the delivery room with us, but that yeah..MY mama WOULD be in there...he's just kept saying "I know you'll do the right thing"
So anyways I have like 32 days left of this pregnancy so last night we were talking and I tell him..you know that I know there isnt really a good time to ask you this but do your mom and grandma know that they won't be in the delivery room? Because I don't want to have any issues or misunderstanding when that day comes...he tells me that he thinks it's unfair that MY mom is allowed in there but his isnt. I don't want to say that his feelings arent valid because I know that they are but...it's not like this is new information, I've been saying it for months...so I just tell him that sometimes things just arent going to be fair...it's my body, my legs are going to be all gaped open and I just don't want them in there. Period. So he tells me that we can go to his moms house together on Tuesday and I can explain to them why I don't want them in there...
At first I was fine with that, but the more I think about it, the less fine I am with it...why should I be required to explain myself? It's my body, it's my day and I have a say on who gets to see my coochie...his mom and grandma ARE NOT on that list...I said all that to him and he tells me "then you shouldnt have a problem explaining that" and he changes the subject....
Should I be upset about him requiring ME to tell his family why I don't want them in the delivery room? I feel a little upset about it but I'm not sure if my anger is valid or not and wanted some opinions. I just ask that you please not bash my husband. He's a good man, we're just not seeing eye to eye on this issue. Thanx ladies =)
Answer by But_Mommie at 12:56 PM on May. 15, 2011
Answer by Simplicity3 at 12:43 PM on May. 15, 2011
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Answer by BetcCarter at 1:17 PM on May. 15, 2011
Why on earth would YOU have to be the one to say it? Does he want to you set up a visit with your family afterward to tell them that he doesn't want to expose his penis and butt hole to them during his most vunerable hours?
Prepare yourself. He's going to try to pressure you into letting them in. That's why he's putting it all on you, and why he wants you to tell them in person. He may even be setting it up so that they can gang up on you too. I would nip that in the bud by calling them up right away and asking if (husband name) led them to believe that you invited them into the delivery room and make sure they know that's not the case.
Answer by Lornamay at 2:16 PM on May. 15, 2011
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