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How should i discipline my 10 yr old?

My ten yr old is so disrespectful and defiant. I ask her to do something, she crosses her arms and says no. She is almost as big as me so trying to spank her is out of the question. I have no way at all to make her do something she has turned into this girl I don't know! She even goes as far as to hit me! I have grounded her, took things away from her and still nothing works please help. My younger children are starting to act like her.


Asked by jenspenc at 4:01 PM on May. 16, 2011 in General Parenting

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Answers (7)
  • take away her favorite thing whether it's video games,ipod,cellphone,toys what have you and don't give them back until the attitude stops

    Answer by chica679 at 4:26 PM on May. 16, 2011

  • take everything she owns away, leave her a matress on the floor, and she has to earn everything back, even her door. Don't waiver either.

    Answer by Zakysmommy at 4:04 PM on May. 16, 2011

  • What kinds of things are you asking her do do? I don't think there is a one-size-fits all punishment. I'd approach each situation individually.

    Answer by UpSheRises at 4:04 PM on May. 16, 2011

  • The biggest thing is to NOT fight with her, fighting gives her what she wants.

    Answer by Zakysmommy at 4:15 PM on May. 16, 2011

  • The main things I ask her to do is take a shower, do your chores, clean your room and all I get is attitude. Good I sea about making her earn her things back. I really just want her to know that it is NOT ok to disrespect me or ever put her hand on me.

    Comment by jenspenc (original poster) at 4:50 PM on May. 16, 2011

  • If it has gotten that bad then maybe taking away all those things might work. Go over what is expected when you ask things of her so it is absolutely clear what she has to do..

    Answer by whitepeppers at 5:05 PM on May. 16, 2011

  • Seek help with the specific situation with a counselor/child therapist. What is going on may be more complex than just needing a handy punishment. Find out and mend it befor she hits 13.

    Answer by blackisbetter at 3:40 AM on May. 17, 2011