I'm 31 weeks pregnant. I haven't seen my mother in over a year because shes abusive, and psychotic. Last I saw her she was kicking the shit out of me, so I left. I got my life together, got married, and now I'm pregnant. My mother tried so hard to keep me down by telling all of my family that I beat her up, and I'm a drug addict and all kinds of things. No one really believed it because, I'm not like that at all. She also threatened the people that helped me get on my feet.
I'm having a baby shower and I invited all of my family and all of my husbands family. I was going to invite my mother, but I told her that if she still had a problem with the people that helped me out, then she probably shouldn't go.
She started saying every mean thing she could and said that she was embarrassed of me, and she feels sorry for my child because I'll be such a horrible mother. So, I said, fine, I won't invite you and embarrass you further.
2 weeks later she sends me emails saying she doesn't know what my problem is with her, and that this is about love and family and yada yada. Sticky sweet letter. She does this, she'll blow up and then act like nothing ever happened.
My cousin called me today to RSVP for my baby shower and to tell me that my mother asked her to throw me a baby shower, because she didn't want to go to mine because she didn't want there to be a problem with the people that "tried to hide me" (the people that helped me out). I told me cousin that I never even invited my mom, even though I was going to, I didn't because of the things she said. My cousin said it was up to me whether I wanted to second baby shower. My mom said just have family there. But the problem is, I already sent out those invitations, to the family that she is referring to.
I feel like this is sabotage honestly. If I decide to not have the second baby shower my family might get mad at me for not letting my mother do what she wants. If I have the second baby shower, it feels like my mother gets her way again, and doesn't take responsibility for the things shes done and said.
I have no idea what to do.
I wanted to invite my mother, but she can't handle herself, and I really want nothing to do with her, but now shes trying to butt her way into my life. I need advice.
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