My sister lives with my parents. They let her move in because of her 3 kids, since her only other option was a homeless shelter. They told her she was going to have to get a job and help pay the bills that would be higher due to her living there ( water, electric, heat ). She has lived there for over 10 mos. and has not gotten a job, looked for a job, or paid them any money. She gets 450$ a month for her disabled daughter, and 600$ a month in child support. She gets so many food stamps that last month she organized a family and friends cookout with all the food bought with food stamps.
This is very stressful to my parents, but it is compounded by the fact that she is completely disrespecful of their wishes when it comes to how her children and her act in their home. The latest example is that my sister bought a lawn sprinkler for the kids and has it running for hours and hours ( sometimes as long as 6 hours in a day) using my parents water that she isn't paying for. When they asked her to not run it so much ( they love their grandkids and want them to have SOME fun) her answer was a hissy fit and to run it when my parents were at work for just as long. I think my parents should kick her out, or at least shut the dang water off on her. But they are thinking of their grandchildren and don't want to see them in a shelter. I hate seeing my parents have to deal with this every single day....Whaddayado?
Asked by Anonymous at 8:48 AM on May. 17, 2011 in General Parenting
Answer by minrudd at 9:00 AM on May. 17, 2011
Answer by missanc at 9:12 AM on May. 17, 2011
Answer by Fistandantalus at 9:51 AM on May. 17, 2011
Answer by MizLee at 10:03 AM on May. 17, 2011
Your sister is irresponsible and your parents need to tell her if she won't work she has so many days and she needs to leave their home. They could tell her the kids are welcome to stay no matter what but she won't be welcome unless she follows the rules and starts paying her own way a bit. Until they stand firm with her she won't do anything. They have to quit enabling her childish behavior.
Answer by chaiteamomma at 11:02 AM on May. 17, 2011
Answer by daughteroftruth at 11:05 AM on May. 17, 2011
Your sister is a user. She's lazy. She's taking advantage of your parents. She's using the grandchildren to control your parents. Your sister is a loser. She should be thankful and grateful to your parents for giving her and her children a safe, nice, warm, loving place to live. Instead she treats them with no respect and uses them...that's disgraceful. Your parents should write out a list of their expectations and tell her that from now on she must comply or she can find somewhere else to live.
Answer by meooma at 9:03 PM on May. 17, 2011
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