My husband and I married in November 2010. I have 3 boys and he has 2 girls. We have my boys more than his girls and this is causing hard feelings toward my children by him. He is very hard on my boys; they have to "tow the line" and he constantly tells them how good they have it, etc. He tells me he feels guilty doing things with my children because he's not able to do things with his. We also have 2 different sets of rules in the household: the girls rule are much more lenient because they arent with us as much. It's a completely complicated situation. To make things more difficult my oldest son has cerebral palsy and my husband is now telling me that he's having difficulty with him. My son makes noises, squealing, etc and he says he can't handle that all the time. I don't know if this is a growing pain and I should just keep my head up and get through it or if I should just cut my losses.....any suggestions???
Answer by hopeandglory53 at 11:51 PM on May. 17, 2011
Answer by emmyandlisa at 11:16 PM on May. 17, 2011
Answer by AmourSpork at 11:28 PM on May. 17, 2011
that is BS, his kids should have the same rules your kids do, favoritism is not conducive to a well blended family. And if he cant handle your kid, well he knew the boy before hand right? I think you might need to reevaluate this one... good luck!
Answer by shivasgirl at 11:35 PM on May. 17, 2011
Answer by smurfyangel at 11:45 PM on May. 17, 2011
WOW.. i am So Sorry you are going through this- Blending a family & making it work is the Hardest Job in the World- my kids are grown now-sometimes, i am Amazed that we made it! In your case though i don't know what to say except.. there is No Way i would deal with my husband telling me he couldn't handle my child that has Special Needs- That is really a Heartless thing to say- besides having a blended family- that hits close to home with me.. i am very fortunate but, i also have a mild case of Cerebral Palsy- even with it being mild, it has effected me in one way or another all of my life- i am sure the Noises your son makes are beyond his control- along with many other things that come with CP- Maybe, counseling would be a good idea.. if he isn't willing to go then you & your boys deserve So Much More- Wishing you lots of luck!
Answer by daisyb at 11:57 PM on May. 17, 2011
Answer by missanc at 9:30 AM on May. 18, 2011
Answer by metalhealthmom at 11:59 PM on May. 17, 2011